X: Blah!
Y: Blah blah!
X: More blah... Btw how's G?
Y: She's fine.. whatever!
X: Something wrong?
Y: Nothing. Nothing is wrong. I wish I were born last century or something. At least I won't be feeling like an idiot.
X: (Giggle giggle and trying to keep a straight face) You are not an idiot. What happened anyway?
Y: I told you already.. Nothing happened! It's just...I should have been more careful. I was taking everyone for granted. Now I realize what an idiot I have been...being nice to everyone. You know, it is always the good guys that suffer all the time! ((Phone beeps.. SMS)).. Wait a sec.. (Types something into that phone) Girls have gone so bad these days. This girl I'm chatting with (Is that a grin?) .. she's my junior but she also talks with three more guys in my class. Three guys that I know of! God knows how many others are on her list! Hmph!
X: Oh.. I though that was G you were talking to all evening..?
Y: Nah.... She has to study. This is another one. New one. (Grins again!) She's cute and sweet and...and so innocent-looking! You'd never believe that she can be like that if you see her!
X: Like what??
Y: She is not good. She talks to like EVERYONE! Not just her.. All girls are like that these days. You can trust a guy these days...never a girl!
X: Hmmm...
Y: Seriously! I'm not saying it because I'm a guy or something. Guys are really trustworthy. A girl will cheat you in a second! A guy can't do that.
X: Who cheated who now?
Y: No one.. But I'm telling you that's how things are these days. Take this girl for example. She is playing with so many people's feelings. Is this why her parents send her to college? Shame! (Pretty steamed now) I bet she'd dump all of them the minute she is out of this college. I mean does she even have a heart? When did girls become like this? There is no such thing as fidelity anymore! The minute you turn your back, she'd start talking with someone else. Sometimes your own friend. I cannot ––
X: (Breaking in..) Yeah I'll vouch for that. I cannot see any "fidelity" now..here I mean!
Y: Exactly! Girls have–– Wait a minute! What do you mean 'here'??
X: Um.. OK wait. Maybe I need some clarification. What do you mean fidelity?
Y: You know... Commitment.. Faithfulness!
X: But she is only talking right. Only friends, nothing serious types, right?
Y: Yeah....but still.... OK leave her. My point is a guy can NEVER do that. Girls are manipulative bitc..um sorry!
X: Ahem! A guy can never do that?! What is it that you are doing then? Your G has turned her back and you are "talking" to someone else!
Y: Come on, you know I don't mean anything bad. Perfectly good intentions here! I talk freely with people that's all. I'm committed to one person, you know that! I know so many guys like me. They are all very good too! They are sociable but they don't have any bad intentions. They talk and maybe flirt with other girls a little bit but they are committed 100% to the one they are serious about.
X: (Almost choking... OK deep breath!) But isn't she doing the exact same thing? That junior girl??
Y: No...(Thinking.. a little stumped looking).. but...
X: She might be 100% committed to someone too! But she is flirting with others... Just like how the others - you guys- are flirting back with her. Is it not?
Y: Yes but she is a g–– Um.. I mean... (Smiling very strained-ly) Yeah you are right! (Now smiling through teeth. Urgh.. Horrible grimace!) Yeah... It's the same thing! Okay.. Gotta go now.. Bye!
I know a defeat when I see one and this is not a defeat. That guy practically ran from there. Why? Not because his opinion or views have changed. Because I was elder to him and so he did not want to fight back. He is being polite! $#%#@#!!!
And he is just the tip of the iceberg! They are so many "nice guys" like him out there. No no wait, good guys! I better learn the standard social norms to survive the "nice guys". So Lesson 1 - It is OK for a guy to be "Sociable" (read flirt) but not for a girl. (If she is "sociable" she'd be called a bitch apparently!)
